"I second that, jdjango.
Work around obstacles that you can't overcome. I've been down this road more than once. I lost half my left thumb back in the seventies -an industrial accident. Found myself the very best teacher I could, a…"
""Long story short (as it were), it's a poor workman who blames his tools"
Amen to that...........like Django, I have 3 digits, and you'd be amazed to see what can be done with a limited fret hand! Never cut short(pun)…"
"I have a short friend with short stubby digits, and he's a classical pianist. Not a hobby-level pianist, he is a teacher who has as his students the children of several well-known keyboardists. He lives and works in NYC and has…"
"It's hard to say without knowing exactly what size your hands are, but probably all you need is a way to build up hand strength. Also, try really light strings. I've heard of people using the lighter banjo strings in place of some of…"
"As I was cursed,with small hands,and stubby fingers,with a poor finger-spread into the bargain,I have managed to get over this problem,by de -tuning a whole step,obviously making a slacker set of strings,I still do this on my twelve-string…"
"Here's a couple of thoughts...
1) really try to put together enough money to pay for some lessons or find someone you respect who plays. You don't have to take lessons forever, but when someone says they've been trying to do…"
"+1 Rosemary......concentrate on what you CAN do rather than what you can't, there are enough songs out there without an F chord, more than you could learn in a life time, playing guitar is about enjoying it and having fun, as long as your doing…"
"I have small hands and small fingers, and even though I play a 3/4 size guitar ( Little Martin) I still have a problem with stretches and barre chords. Sometimes I have to leave out some of the notes of the chord. My F chords are so bad that I try…"
"i HAD a similar problem with f chord my teacher got me to extend my barre finger across the neck and past it on a bit of an angle
it has helped immensely.hope my explaination is understandable and hope it helps"
"Its all really about getting better at playing the way are. Jimi hendrix and john mayer both use their thumbs for the bass notes. Especially when they play chords like a D chord but use their thumb to play the F# on the low E string. It takes work…"
"Im also self taught 9 years in and ive got small bony hands. Ive just had to compromise to a point, because I completely understand what you mean about reaching around with your thumb, I gave that up a long time ago and still come away with a good…"